Showing posts with label heroes. Show all posts
Showing posts with label heroes. Show all posts

Friday, September 25, 2020

Watch Out for Falling Heroes—T.K. Thorne


 Writer, humanist,
          dog-mom, horse servant and cat-slave,
       Lover of solitude
          and the company of good friends,
        New places, new ideas
           and old wisdom.

 

 

The past few months, heroes have toppled under the sledgehammer of truth. I’m not talking about the confederate statues; I’m taking about personal heroes. Among the fallen are L. Frank Baum, author of The Wizard of Oz books, who advocated exterminating native Americans; John Wayne, who made disturbing remarks about blacks and Native Americans: J.K. Rowling, who has made remarks some interpret as transphobic; and Dr. Seuss’ —of all people—whose cartoon art included racial stereotyping.  Classics like Tom Sawyer and Huckleberry Finn and Gone with the Wind are coming under scrutiny for racial stereotyping. 

 

This is really nothing new. Gertrude Stein, an American poet and literature icon, sympathized with France’s Vichy regime (a puppet state for the Nazis). Ezra Pound, a major American poet, became a fascist collaborator in Italy during World War II. T.S. Eliot, a famous British essayist and poet was an elitist, writing that “a large number of free-thinking Jews is undesirable.” He did not espouse tolerance or even traveling widely and thus, presumably, exposing oneself to other cultures. 

One of the real angsts about the historical book I am writing now is that one of my heroes stumbles on his pedestal. When he visited Birmingham sometime in 1963, his brother set them up with prostitutes (both were married). I worried about putting in that chapter, but the story was true and germane to the book. I grappled with whether to cut it or leave it. In the end, I decided it was true, and the truth was more important to tell.  Is he still a great man? A man to be followed and listened to?

I stopped drooling over actor Sean Connery when he said he thought it was “absolutely right” to hit women when they wouldn’t “leave things alone.” The “father of our national parks,” John Muir, had no place for indigenous peoples in his “pure” wilderness and was clear about his racist opinions about them and about blacks. Bill Clinton led record job creation but sullied the office of president with his shenanigans. John F. Kennedy was just as bad in that department, yet his words still inspire. Nixon created the Environment Protection Agency (EPA) and opened China, but also dishonored the office he held. Thomas Jefferson had slaves. Abraham Lincoln plainly said he had no intentions of freeing slaves. And the paragraph above regarding prostitutes refers to Martin Luther King. Even Mahatma Gandhi, surely an icon of peace and civility, said the Jews under Hitler’s heels “should have offered themselves to the butcher’s knife.” 

What? 

What, indeed, are we to do? Everyone has flaws. No one is perfect. If you think someone is, you just don’t know about theirs. And one person’s “flaws” is another person’s “strengths of character.” Judging people is simultaneously harmful (“Judge not, lest ye be judged”) and necessary. We can’t choose a better path without acknowledging and turning away from ideas and behavior that will harm our social, cultural, and personal evolution . . . or our world.

Should we separate the person from their creations (art, writing, leadership) or do we turn away and disregard their accomplishments or creations because of the creator’s flaws? Is it a matter of strict lines in the sand? Should we make allowances for time, context, and culture?  Is justice  about punishment or mercy? Does it matter if the theft was a loaf of bread and the thief was hungry?

I suspect dealing with this is akin to the concept of forgiveness. Forgiveness is not about forgetting, turning from what is true, or acting like something didn’t happen. It is about letting go of the grip wrongs have on us; letting go of our own emotional angst and moving forward.

So maybe the answer is not to ban books or art (because ideas are next) or even to shun the art, works, or accomplishments of the flawed (because ultimately that is everyone), but to be aware and negotiate the complexity. What young children with forming ideas are exposed to may need to be more strictly scrutinized than what adults read. It’s important they be exposed to material that reflects the diversity of the world. Confederate statues are still art and reflect historical people and events, but do they belong in public squares as “heroes?” Can we appreciate the beautiful and charming aspects of Southern culture while remaining clear-eyed about the racism that dominated that way of life? Can we admire the stunning culture of the Japanese, while rejecting the blood thirst of feudal rulers and war mongers? Can we accept and understand structural racism can exist along with good, decent police officers?

This is hard. We are not wired to do this very easily. We are wired to want simple choices—good/bad, dangerous/not. We want (need?) our heroes to be perfect. And if they aren’t, we want to put our hands over our ears and shut our eyes. But they aren’t perfect. We aren’t. Our country isn’t. We can be patriots and criticize. In fact, we must if we are to continue making things better and stay true to the ideals that  many have given freedom and blood for. At the moment, we are so polarized, that one side cannot imagine saying anything good about the other, no matter what it is. Picking a path through this jungle is hard. It is much easier to stay divided, to cheer only for our team. But life is not like that. Life is change. It is complex and contradictory, even our heroes. We must make decisions as we pick our way through stony, thorn-filled paths. We must make choices. Sometimes they are obvious, but often they are not clear or perfect.

Sometimes they will just be the best we can do.


 T.K. is a retired police captain who writes Books which, like this blog, go wherever her interest and imagination take her.  TKThorne.com

 


 

 

Wednesday, June 6, 2018

Clicking Our Heels - People We Respect

Clicking Our Heels – People We Respect
Last month, we contemplated our favorite royals, but what about non-royal people we respect?  Rich or poor, famous or not – these individuals are who the Stiletto Gang members most respect and why.

A.B. Plum: Michelle Obama: quintessential mother and First Lady and apparently a damned good lawyer as well. The President was lucky to have her at his side watching his back, imo. I think she’s done a lot to encourage women to speak out against sexual harassment.

Juliana Aragon Fatula: Hillary Clinton put cracks in the glass ceiling and she put up with many fools who wanted to tear her down. She taught us that it takes a village to raise a child.

Bethany Maines: Warren Buffet, Melinda Gates, and anyone who publicly admits that they have changed their mind on a topic after hearing new information. Buffet and Gates seem interested in raising up the human condition and I find that admirable. But the person who admits that they have listed to facts and changed their opinion is some sort of saint. In this world of entrenched view points and never admitting to being wrong unless you think it will prevent you from going to jail, changing your mind is some sort of sin and takes courage.

Sparkle Abbey:
Anita Carter: My Grandmother. When she lost her first husband, she uprooted her 6 young children and moved them from Homer, New York to Yuba City, California. She opened a restaurant and raised her family for many years (10+) before she remarried. She was spunky, determined, and a prayer warrior. She was an amazing lady.

Mary Lee Woods: There are so many to think about that this is a difficult choice. Someone I greatly admire is Jimmy Carter. Though he could have enjoyed a leisurely retirement, since his time as president, this man has continued to contribute to the world in a very positive way. His work with Habitat for Humanity has, I’m sure, made a difference for many families. Many families who never dreamed they could have a home of their own. To me, he seems to be the embodiment of what we should strive for – to continue doing, to continue to believe in causes we feel are important, to continue to make a difference in whatever way we can. This is one of my favorite quotes from our 39th president: We become not a melting pot but a beautiful mosaic. Different people, different beliefs, different yearnings, different hopes, different dreams.

Kay Kendall: I respect President Obama for his steady and intelligent hand in guiding our nation during eight years, for his withstanding racism and horribly unfair attack on his sterling character, and for maintaining a fine and loving family life despite constant and intense political pressures.

Judy Penz Sheluk: I’m going to go with my favorite Canadian – my husband, Mike. He is by no means perfect, and he doesn’t suffer fools gladly, but you will never find a more loyal friend or anyone with more integrity.

Linda Rodriguez: Dolores Huerta is an amazing leader and public servant, a charismatic speaker and gifted community organizer – who actually began what would become the United Farmworkers Movement before Cesar Chavez ever showed up and did most of the actual work for it while he was out doing the publicity – and I’ve been fortunate enough to know her and taok to her, leading to tremendous respect for her. Wilma Mankiller was the first Principal Chief of the Cherokee Nation of Oklahoma in modern times (we say that because, before Europeans came and made them stop, the Cherokee always had women in leadership with men). Wilma was honored by the Cherokee Nation, the United States, and the United Nations for the work she did for may years on behalf of poor people, women, children, and other marginalized communities, and she’s been my role model for decades. My dear friend Sandra Cisneros, is one of the most spiritually enlightened people I know and a fabulous writer and mentor/organizer/benefactor of writers, plus being funny and fun. It’s hard to choose just one person. I’ve been so lucky to know so many remarkable people. And then there’s Diane Glancy, Linda Hogan, Joy Harjo, Deborah Miranda, Luis J. Rodriguez, Patricia Spears Jones, Lucha Corpi, Luis Alberto Urrea, and Marjorie Agosin, beloved friends, fabulous writers, and all doing major work for other writers and for their own communities and others. I find myself gravitating to writers of color for this answer because they not only write incredible books, but mentor other writers and work hard to build up the communities they come from and the communities where they now find themselves, as well as the country as a whole.

T.K. Thorne: Benjamin Franklin. He was certainly not perfect, but he was brilliant and prolific and eccentric, affecting the shape of our country and customs in many ways.

Dru Ann Love: Obama because he stood up to the naysayers and showed that a black man can indeed be president, something I never thought I would see in my lifetime.

Jennae Phillippe: The first names that come to mind are all the activists that have fought to make changes in our country- including the Founding Fathers, who are the original activists. Our country always seems to move ahead through an act of revolution (even if the modern ones are all political). And when I think of “American Royals” I think of our rich history of activism.

Shari Randall: So may historical figures fascinate me – I just finished Lincoln in the Bardo and would love to meet Lincoln. Also many brave women fascinate – Sojourner Truth, Harriet Tubman – and artists like Emily Dickinson. Too many to list!

Debra H. Goldstein: My mother, Erica Green, because she was the quintessential example of what the politicians, national leaders, teachers, writers, entertainers, and others I admire tell us America is. A Holocaust survivor orphaned at ten, she was an immigrant who came to the United States through Ellis Island. She learned perfect English and while gaining an education, worked from the age of fourteen. After marrying the love of her life and having children, she instilled in them the confidence to embrace everything our country offers, to understand one’s name and word reflects one’s integrity, that putting family and others first is necessary, and that survival necessitates thinking outside the box.

Thursday, December 24, 2009

12 Heroes of Christmas


Today wraps up the 12 Heroes of Christmas over at Chasing Heroes, the other blog I hang with. We've spent 12 days profiling our favorite holiday heroes and hunks, and there have been prizes galore! Today is the big kahuna. We have a gift basket with books and a whole bunch of other goodies. All you have to do is visit and leave a comment. Maybe you'll wake up tomorrow a Chasing Heroes winner!

Everybody's full of anticipation for tomorrow and I'm the lucky one who gets to wish you all a Merry Christmas on Christmas Eve. I love that! I've been so blessed to have spent part of 2009 here with the Stiletto Gang, and I'm looking forward to an exciting 2010 with them. My new release, Hasta la Vista, Lola!, will be out in just over a month, I have more exciting things in the works, and life is good.

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, A Blessed Kwanza, Happy Hanukkah, and a Very Joyous New Year to all our readers here at The Stiletto Gang!

XO ~ Misa