tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025201337316610324.post3371484697036145656..comments2023-12-31T20:43:08.499-05:00Comments on THE STILETTO GANG: From the Mind of a Guilt-Ridden PerfectionistUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025201337316610324.post-69500794246993564832011-10-07T23:34:20.629-04:002011-10-07T23:34:20.629-04:00Hey Maggie - did you buy the peanut butter? I'...Hey Maggie - did you buy the peanut butter? I'm thinking peanut butter cookies sounds pretty awesome about now. <br /><br />And I totally understand the perfectionist thing. The two of us can go to therapy together:)Joelle Charbonneauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13608552691748018256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025201337316610324.post-40139577777452862312011-10-07T14:18:39.668-04:002011-10-07T14:18:39.668-04:00Jennifer, nice to know of another kindred spirit o...Jennifer, nice to know of another kindred spirit out there! When I tell you that I actually lose sleep when I find or have a mistake pointed out to me, you can believe me. It kills me. But I can only do what I can to make sure that no mistakes get in there and if one slips by, I have to accept that I am not perfect. MaggieMaggie Barbierinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025201337316610324.post-85226730440514911712011-10-07T13:09:46.780-04:002011-10-07T13:09:46.780-04:00Oh, wow this Post is great for me to read. I'm...Oh, wow this Post is great for me to read. I'm a perfectionist, too and I love series and I write them. I get so bogged down in the details and writing every little thing as notes (like hair color and number of siblings and so on) so I can be perfect. End result? Much longer between publishings than need be and there's probably a mistake or two anyway.<br /><br />I would never want the attitude that I don't care but I'd like to cultivate a nice, healthy, 'oops, but that's okay, no one's perfect' attitude. A good, solid story will satisfy most readers and the ones that pick out every little problem usually enjoy doing so, so it doesn't detract from the good story. (I speak as one of those nutjobs. As a kid I was proud of every mistake I found in print. Today, it's getting sad.)<br /><br />Thank you for this Post - it's lightened my day and taken a weight off my shoulders. Another reminder to take a breath and write the story.<br /><br />And my memory is so bad that even when I take my shopping list (sometimes I forget it), I invariable forget something on the list. How is that possible? I have my pen and check everything off as I go. And yet...I still miss one or two things.<br /><br />Go figure...Jennifer Oberthhttp://www.jenniferoberth.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025201337316610324.post-1930498988842985882011-10-06T14:25:02.318-04:002011-10-06T14:25:02.318-04:00Bethany, your feeling my pain makes me feel so muc...Bethany, your feeling my pain makes me feel so much better. The things that slip through the proverbial cracks are what keep me up at night. My cliche for all of this is "misery loves company" because it makes me feel better to know that other people have the same issues. We do our best--and that's all we can do. MaggieMaggie Barbierinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025201337316610324.post-56287831660936363402011-10-06T14:03:24.771-04:002011-10-06T14:03:24.771-04:00I once sat down with a book group to discuss Bulle...I once sat down with a book group to discuss Bulletproof Mascara and they wanted to brought up some pretty arcane points. And thing was, the details changed between drafts! I couldn't remember where things ended up in the final draft. I finally just shrugged and said they'd read it more recently than I had. Then they wanted to discuss my typos... yeah. Not my best day. Anyway, not to sound cliche, but I feel your pain!Bethanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05287040994749326468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025201337316610324.post-24278411581165700482011-10-06T10:04:39.078-04:002011-10-06T10:04:39.078-04:00Please add "talking guilt-ridden author off t...Please add "talking guilt-ridden author off the ledge" to your list of job responsibilities as my friend. Thanks for the shout-out! Your sister gets an autographed copy! MaggieMaggie Barbierinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1025201337316610324.post-22471322672237686952011-10-06T09:53:04.827-04:002011-10-06T09:53:04.827-04:00That's why I love writing stand-alones...you d...That's why I love writing stand-alones...you don't have to remember near as much as you do when writing a series! Honestly, it'd be impossible to recall every little thing. I love that George R.R. Martin article where he says he can't keep track of everything (and he doesn't let that bother him). Anyway, I think you've done a fab job with the series, and I adored PHYSICAL EDUCATION. Ah, and it's on sale just in time for the holidays. I know a sister in particular who'd enjoy getting a copy under the tree! ;-)Susan McBridehttp://susanmcbride.comnoreply@blogger.com