By Bethany Maines
Many things change after having a baby. And I have to say that one of the things that I’m the most sad to see change is the amount of music I listen to. Baby nap times seem to encompass the whole dang day! I used to have iTunes running almost constantly. Not that it wasn’t a battle with my husband over what to listen to. No, I don’t want more Phish. And there’s only so much hip-hop and Grateful Dead I can listen to before going insane. (Yes, my husband is a hippy with a secret love of 90’s R&B. He compensates for this deficiency by being ruggedly handsome and having the miraculous ability to open jars and kill countless spiders.)
The interesting thing is that, aside from the specific bands, where my husband I deviate in our musical tastes is an actual love of music. He loves music. Phish, Dave Matthews, the Allman Brothers, and the Grateful Dead all have one thing common. OK, take a toke and make that two things – they’re jam bands. I hate jam bands. It’s just giant swaths of useless music that take away from the important thing – the lyrics. I love the words. (Surprised? Probably not.) For me, music is like poetry with half the pretentiousness and way more shake-your-bootiliciousness. And I like to play it ALL the time particularly when I’m working. I find that music helps put me in the zone for writing and for design.
But with an in-home office and a baby, it’s become a lot more difficult to crank the tunes through the work day. I was excited when the baby hit two and it became easier to send her to daycare/babysitting and there’s only one nap to contend with, but it has also meant that she’s tons more verbal. With a toddler in the house, I don’t feel quite so comfortable cranking up a few of the songs I love, like Don’t Shoot Me Santa by The Killers. I am perfectly prepared to explain that boys have a penis and some people are in wheelchairs and sometimes boys marry boys and girls marry girls. But… I am not at all prepared to explain why Santa is shooting that guy in the song. I’m pretty sure I see headphones in my future.
Bethany Maines is the author of the Carrie Mae Mysteries, Wild Waters, Tales from the City of Destiny and An Unseen Current. You can also view the Carrie Mae youtube video or catch up with her on Twitter and Facebook.