I started to write about different kinds of friends, but then I realized I'd gotten too specific about a certain type of friend who is kind of a downer to be around and realized she just might read this blog post. I would never ever want to hurt her feelings, so I'm going to try again.
What kind of friends do you have?
Over the years I've had some interesting varieties. One of my very best friends turned out to be what they call a fair-weather friend. I stuck by her through all sorts of her family crisis and a few of her personal ones, but when something tragic happened in my family she disappeared from my life.
Since that time, I've never had another "best friend." Instead, I've got many friends from all over. There are friends that I only see once a year when I got to a Mayhem in the Midlands--dear friends who are not writers but readers. I look forward to spending time with them and sharing at least one meal somewhere in Old Town. They are much younger than I am and I enjoy being with them.
I have dear friends who attend the same church with me, ones who I can count on to listen when I need a friendly ear and I'm there when they need the same.
And how about the friends we never see? Like the friends we've made on this blog. It's been a joy to learn more about each and everyone, to find out how they feel about things with a perspective much different than my own.
When I was much younger, I had an older friend who mentored me with my writing. In fact, I learned more from her about writing than any class I ever took or book that I read. She's moved too far for me to see her in person anymore, but she's still going strong nearing 90. And yes, we do email one another.
Many years ago, I worked in the nursery at church with an 80 year old woman who I truly admired. We became great friends and giggled about some of the silliest things while caring for the little ones.
Now I'm at the other end of the scale--being one of the older women--and I have friends of many ages and love and enjoy every one.
I am still careful though, I limit the time I spend with the complainers and the whiners--life is too short for that. But when you spend time with someone who is fun, can laugh at themselves, is loving and enjoys life--you feel so much better yourself.
Not sure there's a point to this, but it is what I felt like writing about today.
Anyone have any thoughts about their friends?